I’ve been thinking of what to post on this topic for the last couple of days. I saw that Amy was doing a link up on her blog about “getting real”. I think for the most part I am real on this blog, but there are a lot of things I don’t post about for fear that some of you may judge me differently. I don’t exactly know who reads this blog or why they do and I would never want to offend anyone because their life’s circumstances aren’t the same as mine. I am not the best writer, and I tend to write how I talk….so I will just write this the best I can.
Through blogging I have heard some incredible stories…lots of good ones….and some very sad ones. There have been times I’m sitting at my computer bursting for joy reading my computer screen, and other times I am sitting there crying because something not so good has happened in your lives. I don’t understand why some things happen to people, but I do hope that we can all be here to encourage each other as we journey through life. Most of us live far from each other, but have all found a common bond in blogging and developed life long friendships ๐
My life is not that exciting, and nothing spectacular happens to me on a day to day basis, but I do enjoy keeping this blog to look back on. I have always been a saver and a picture taker…it’s something I enjoy and the pictures are a memory captured that can be shared! It excites me and I love to share these memories with my friends, family, and you!
One common bond I found with a lot of you was my journey to become a mother. My journey has been short compared to many of you out there. There are still so many of you who are longing and hoping for this dream we all talk about and share on our blogs….motherhood.
Terence and I were married 8 years and 5 months to the day when we welcome Connor into our lives. I can say I always had a feeling I would have trouble getting pregnant or carrying a child. Growing up my sister and I both struggled with PCOS. I have never had a normal period in my LIFE. I either had no period at all or a period that would last for several weeks at a time. Sometimes it was excruciating!
Now, let me make it clear we have not been trying to have a baby the entire time we’ve been married. When we started talking about it I got worried & I think I was the one that pushed it so hard. Terence would have been fine to wait 10 more years! That is just men for ya!
There were times when we tried and times when we didn’t. I never expected much…..but as I began to see all my friends have a baby…then their second baby….and even third baby….I began to wonder if something was wrong. The times we did try nothing would happen and your like “are we doing something wrong?” The last couple of years I really felt time caving in on me like a black hole. I was starting to push 30 and people started to ask us if we were ever going to have kids??? How do you tell someone “YES” when they have no clue that it’s something you desire so badly…but don’t know how to make it happen.
We never had to go to the lengths that some of you have gone through to try and conceive. We did try alternative methods and some drugs before conceiving Connor, but we did not conceive him while using any of that. I remember finding out my sister was pregnant and at the time it was the last straw. As thrilled and excited as I was for her I was hurting inside because I wanted it to be me so badly!
It did give me hope….because we both had the same health problems I thought if she could get pregnant then maybe so can I??? I remember the night I found out I think I threw my phone at Terence and burst into tears….”it’s supposed to be ME!”
Terence had just graduated with his masters degree & we had just moved out of my in-laws house into our own apartment. Things were definitely looking up and I thought the only thing that would make it better would be a baby. I think I had a misunderstanding of what having a baby truly was….yes they are cute and wonderful…but these past 7 months have kicked our butts! I have read so many blogs that paint a perfect picture of motherhood and it’s not all perfect. It’s hard. It’s real. It’s GREAT! It’s so many things I cannot describe right now!
I ramble I know….
Terence and I were living our lives and for the first time we felt secure. We both had our own place, good jobs, and were able to go out on the weekends and have fun. In my heart I was happy, but I felt a missing piece…I knew I was missing something. I had been patient and waited & waited for the right time for God to bless us. The previous year I began to really push the issue of having a baby on Terence and I don’t think that was right. It wasn’t right for me, him, or our relationship. I’ve said before….God truly has perfect timing.
Shortly after I found out my sister was pregnant I found out my sister in law was pregnant as well. I was excited for her…but again I was hurting inside because I wanted to be a mother too. I remember calling Summer and we just talked and vented to each other. She’s been there for me & I hope I can always be there for her too even though circumstances have changed. She is going to be a mother soon! I feel it!
What I didn’t know at the time was that….I was pregnant too!
I remember praying to God and pleading with him “Please Lord if you grant me a child he is Yours not mine…he is YOURS!” I just kept saying that over and over again in my head…..he is yours not mine…yours not mine….
I still remember praying that prayer so vividly. And on my 28th birthday God blessed me with Connor….I know that was the day. Happy birthday to me right??? ha..ha..
I finally gave in and gave it all over to God. I quit trying to control my own life and trying to fit into a mold I thought would be right. I hear it and people say it all the time….the minute you quit trying to control the world around you and just relax it will happen….and it did.
I’m praying for those of you still in waiting each day & thank you for always being there for me and encouraging me over the years! Everyone’s journey is different….but if they were all the same then what kind of life would that be?
XOXO – Becky
Reflection:
Psalm 21:2 You have granted him the desire of his heart and have not withheld the request of his lips.
Psalm 145:19 He fulfills the desires of those who fear him; he hears their cry and saves them.
Yesterday I had the day off because it was Columbus Day. Gotta love those federal holidays right??? Terence took the day off to spend with us too. Connor got up and ate then we all slept until 10:30!!! Woohoo for sleeping in! I don’t think either of us have slept that long since before Connor was born.
We spent a lot of time playing on the floor and crawling around 
Some more pics from the weekend:
Some goofy pictures of my boo!
You are growing up so fast! Soon we’ll be celebrating your 1st birthday! Last night you crawled all the way across the living room floor. Your Daddy and I got so tickled at how determined you were to do that ๐ 
